Here are some steps to pursue your new spiritual path in complete serenity.
You've gone through all the stages of your spiritual awakening... now what? The only thing you see right now is that you feel lost and don't know what to do. You expected to find inner peace but yet something is wrong. It is natural and there are ways to cope with it.
In this article, I'll show you the signs that you're spiritually awake, why you're feeling lost after your spiritual awakening, and what you can do about it.
1. Stop! Stop everything and wait. Simply do nothing.
Sometimes feeling lost is exactly what we're meant to feel, and the place we are meant to be… nowhere ! It's a sign that you're making progress, so don't back down.
If you have to do one thing, it's to accept what you feel without judgment, and above all, not to hide it. Sometimes we may even have to pretend that everything is perfect, so as not to put on a bad face and face the taunts of those around us. Those who don't particularly like the new path you've taken, because they don't recognize you.
You might also feel the need to move on and speed up the recovery process. It's not a good idea. Each stage has its role, even that of feeling lost.
Another decision, more disastrous this one, would be to backtrack and go back to the “time before”.
When you feel restless and are either faking it, trying to go back to what you knew before, or speeding up the process, ask yourself a few questions, without judging them:
What am I feeling at this precise moment?
Why do I feel this?
What am I trying to avoid when I escape, by all means, from being present at the moment?
Behind this feeling of being lost or uncomfortable, there is fear. Fear of something happening (or not happening).
If you looked at this situation with love, compassion and acceptance? Do this exercise with patience and empathy for yourself, while trying to untie the knots of your confusion and the hidden reasons for it. Be patient, it's worth it.
2. Read, research, explore!
To elucidate what is happening to you and how you are feeling, read testimonials. Learn in depth about spiritual awakening and its consequences. Explore different aspects of your new life. What has changed for you that perhaps scares you?
This is a period of acclimatization, as we seek to implement a new normal for ourselves. We have generally lost all our bearings, a good part of our friends, perhaps even some members of our family or our professional activity. This adjustment could mean making new friends, establishing new habits, or seeking a new career. But again, this is a process that you have to do at your own pace. Don't feel like you have to jump right into all these changes right away. Read, research, explore! Do not bypass this moment, it will allow you to grow, even if you do not feel it, even if you feel quite the opposite. It takes time to integrate all the upheavals you have just experienced.
3. Connect with like-minded people
Connect, connect, connect ! This is certainly one of the most important and effective keys to getting you out of your discomfort. At most, it will allow you to free yourself from the impasse in which you find yourself. At worst, it will give you the opportunity to share your feelings with those who are on the same path as you. Winner, winner!
During and after a spiritual awakening, we are confronted every day to communicate, to work or even to live with people who live from their ego, it can make us completely alienated. It is as if we have lost our place in society. However, we cannot live completely outside of it, or very few have the possibility or succeed. However, when we find a community of people who embrace their spiritual side, we have the opportunity to meet people who, like us, seek to understand, to listen, to accept life's difficulties, and to grow. By rubbing shoulders with them, by communicating with them, we can also undertake certain things to integrate our changes, because we have the example of our predecessors who have passed the phase in which we are. We can also share our problems, our doubts and our fears with those who are a little lost like us. We don't feel so alone anymore.
For my part, because I was completely confused during my initial awakening, I searched the web for people, communities, and I found my “spiritual family”.
All my connections, even today, are still the only ones with whom I communicate regularly. In the meantime, friends have evaporated, I let others go, but I found my tribe, scattered all over the globe with whom I feel in perfect symbiosis. It is fascinating and so rewarding! We are all there for each other, no matter how far apart we are, no matter what language we speak. And above all, we get each other!
This connectedness helped me realize that I wasn't the only one struggling, and that I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be in life, right now.
4. Meditate
When we go through a spiritual awakening, the only thing that is really running at light speed is our brain. It does not leave us in peace.
It is a real challenge and we are aware of it. Our mind is cluttered with thoughts. Thanks to our little ego which tries to block our way, because it doesn’t want to lose its place in our life.
One undeniable way to help us clean up our thoughts is to meditate. It is the number one way to sort out our thoughts and calm our mind, not to mention all the physical, psychological and emotional benefits.
5. Declutter your life
If you're clearing your head through meditation, there are other areas of your life that could benefit from a good sweep, as well as a detox in your body. We accumulate so many things, without realizing it. Freeing up your space and becoming more attentive to the foods and drinks you consume will also allow you to have clearer ideas. We are so used to seeing all the objects in our closets, in our living space and in our fridge that we actually stop seeing them.
During my spiritual awakening, I had a sudden impulse for minimalism. Not that I was one to be surrounded by trinkets, but I took out a thing here and there, which I often replaced with a plant to bring more nature into my home. I sorted through my closets (which made some people happy), and only kept what I really liked (objects, clothes, etc.). And suddenly my space was breathing better and so was I. I had cleaned up visual pollution which, without being obvious, because I am more of a minimalist than a collector, no longer had a place in my life. The energy became lighter, the luminosity and my gaze was no longer assailed by “excess” objects.
So of course, everyone has their own style, but try to get rid of granny's little macrame under Aunt Georgette's vase (that you could give too to your favorite little neighbor, by the way). Get rid of the jeans you wore at 16, first of all you certainly don't fit in them anymore, and they're certainly not fashionable either (by the way what's fashion?). Try to imagine a space in your image and what you want your life to look like. You will already feel a little better, trust me!
When an object, a piece of clothing, anything that shares your space no longer evokes joy, tenderness or happy memories, either it goes in the trash, or you sell it at the next garage sale, or you give it away. And the sorting is done! Simple, right?
And then, from now on, stop consuming so much. Stop impulse buying. Stop buying junk!
Now let's move on to part B of this step which also includes your food intake, and all the personal care and beauty products that fill your bathroom and purse. What types of beauty products do you use daily, which contain harsh chemicals? What types of food do you eat that do not properly nourish your body?
Clear your kitchen cupboards and fridge of cookies, crisps, chips, take-out meals and other sweets… all those foods that intoxicate you! Your body will thank you. Don't buy all the false advertising cosmetics anymore ! Not only will your skin thank you, but it will also help you save a lot of money.
6. Cultivate joy.
Taking good care of ourselves also involves joy. Joy is found in simple things, joy is living every moment. Joy is gratitude… and how many reasons to be grateful? Thousands! Thousands of simple little things that we all too often take for granted.
When we feel lost, practicing joy is saving us and costs absolutely nothing! Be careful not to confuse joy with happiness, because happiness can be found in fleeting pleasures like an impulse purchase. Joy is something deeper that touches us on a much more spiritual level.
Joy can be going on a hike with friends, singing around a wood fire, reading the latest book you are passionate about, cooking with your children. Make a list of some of these things and make sure you do them right.
7. Take care of yourself without any remorse!
There is nothing less comforting than unapologetic self-care.
There is, of course, the famous bubble bath with the scent of essential oils. Of course, there are the expert hands of a relaxing massage, always with essential oils (to tell you that I adore them would be an understatement); but self-care is not just about physical and mental well-being, it is also about spiritual, financial, responsible, and emotional self-care.
It means finding a balance and making the necessary changes to give yourself enough time to take care of the other things I mentioned on this list. You may have to say "no" to some things, and that's okay. That is taking care of yourself too! Shifting your priorities for a week or a month (or more) is also a way to take care of yourself.
So practice self-care without remorse and do what you need to to gently guide your life down the path that's right for you.
To take away
Feeling lost after your spiritual awakening is nothing abnormal, let's even say that it is part of the journey. It's like recovery time after a marathon. Do not try to skip this step, it is as important as the previous ones. Now you are in a recovery period where you need to take time to get used to your new state of being. Surrender to the process and all that you feel. Remember to connect with others who feel the same, and find joy in your life!
And to end with a touch of humor… Make the most of this truce where you will begin to feel more at peace, because remember, life is cyclical. When you may start to feel comfortable, you'll be ready just in time for another spiritual awakening, and feeling lost in a whole new way! :))))
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